Thoughts on Friendships
Have you ever wondered how I come to certain conclusions? If so, I'd be happy to ask you what specific knowledge you're looking for. Let's think about the existence of good and bad people on Earth. It makes us wonder: which category do I fit into, and why? Am I the "good guy," while someone else is the "bad guy"? Who decides what's good and what's bad? There must be some external source that gives us this understanding. What makes something "too good" or "too bad"? Where are the boundaries, and who sets them?
At the end of the day, who truly knows, who cares, and who can we trust with our lives and hearts during tough times or joyful moments, whether we're feeling down or up, sick or well? Who are the people we can count on with our lives, and who make our lives better? The concepts of good and evil are subjective and depend on various factors. These are the people who truly understand me in ways that others don't.
Maybe it's better to ask, "Is this person's presence in my life contributing positively to my well-being and growth?" If the answer is yes, I'd consider them suitable for me. If someone is causing me harm or hindering my progress, then they might not be a good fit for me. So, it's clear that good and evil are subjective; they're not universal truths that apply to everyone.
Not everyone is good for each other, and the sooner you realize this in life, the sooner you'll be free from what others think. Some opinions don't matter because they come from people who don't have your best interests at heart. It's also important to remember that you might not always prioritize others' interests either. It's what it is—so don't rush to make friends or let people in who don't genuinely care about you. Take your time, observe their actions, and see if they align with your values and well-being.
Be cautious when meeting new people, especially if they seem overly friendly. They are looking out for themselves and not thinking about how their actions affect you. Choose your friends wisely and be aware of your enemies. Some so-called friends are merely curious acquaintances. These so-called friends are unlikely to support you when things get tough or defend you when you're not around.
Being self-aware is crucial when it comes to choosing friends. It allows you to discern who is truly good for you and who will provide genuine support. This self-awareness underscores the significant role you play in building relationships that are truly beneficial and uplifting.
If I talk badly about you behind your back, or if you do the same, we're not really friends. We're just people who know each other. But if you defend me and I protect you, and we both give each other space to be ourselves without criticizing each other too much, then that could be the basis of a real friendship. Your spouse should be your closest friend and companion, but I often hear people talk badly about their partners. That kind of relationship lacks trust, and it's unlikely to work. I only have a few friends, and they're the ones I look out for, and I hope they do the same for me. Some people don't have any friends at all, because I rarely hear them talk positively about anyone, even their partners.
Kindness and understanding are the cornerstones of any relationship. We should strive to understand and support one another, creating a warm and comforting environment. Let's be the kind of friend we would want for ourselves. I hope you reflect on what I've shared. It may not align with all your thoughts, but there might be aspects that resonate with you. Have a wonderful day!